Ubuntu means Interconnected

My Dharma friend, Debby, just returned from a 3-week retreat in South Africa followed by a 3-week game tour to several national parks. The name of the game tour was Ubuntu.

Debby explained that ubuntu means something like “I exist because you exist.” Ubuntu refers to our interconnectedness and reminds us that we each belong to a greater whole.

As it turned out, Sunday was Ubuntu-day for me.

I was giving a Dharma talk at Northampton Insight Sunday night, and so had prepared a powerpoint slide shReflections pptow on my recent retreat in Burma. One of my traveling companions sent me several of her photos. I borrowed a projector from another Dharma friend, but couldn’t get my laptop to communicate with it.

At 4 p.m., i called my neighbor, Connie about borrowing her laptop. “Come on down,” she said. I took all my hardware to her house and within 15 minutes, she showed me the proper connections.

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Jet Drag

Three days ago, i was flying over the Pacific Ocean. Now i’m wide awake at 2 a.m. as if i’m hovering near sunrise over the Atlantic. Apparently, my circadian rhythms are coming home via the west with the sunrise, even though my body headed home by flying east. No wonder i feel slightly separated from my body, as if it’s a foreigner.

On the first flight from Bangkok to Tokyo, i fell solidly asleep and woke up as the sun rose over India. The next nap on the plane from Tokyo to DC, i woke as the sun rose over Iran. When i finally made it to bed, i woke up an hour later, as the sun rose over Turkey. Then, doze and wake as the sun rose over England, and there i stayed for 3 days.

We call it jet lag, but by midday i’m dragging so heavily, i can fall asleep standing up. The other evening, i fell asleep for 1 second while driving on the interstate to my 7:30 p.m. trapeze class. The weariness weakened my strength, my grip on the trapeze bar, and my grip on wakefulness. I was ready to stretch out on the mat under the trapeze and take a nap.

I’m actually okay with waking in the week hours. i can live perfectly well on 5 hours of slarroweep, so i’m surprised by the weariness that drags my eyes closed at 10 a.m., 1 p.m., 4 p.m., 7 p.m., and 8 p.m. No amount of napping compensates.

My days and nights are upside down. Oh well, i’ll just make hay while the sun isn’t shining, and write this blog at 2 a.m.

Circular Train

imageOne morning, after Khin and Connie go to the office, Susan and I take a taxi to the Central Train Station. We ask for the Circular Train and are directed to platform 7.  A small ticket office on the platform proclaims Warmly Welcome & Take Care of Tourists.  We go inside the office where 3 men work, and the one behind a table directs us to sit down.

“One dollar,” he says, and collects a single bill from each of us. (It was for just these occasions that Susan ironed her bills.) Then he begins to fill out a 1/3 page form.  “Passport?” he asks. Of course, we are not carrying our passports with us, so he waves that question away, and asks for our passport numbers. I happen to have memorized mine, so I write it down, and Susan is amazed that I have that number at the tip of my mind. “I was a math major,” I explain. “I can remember numbers.”

He writes out the ticket for “Cheryl Wilfong + 1”, so Susan doesn’t need her number.

After waiting for just a few minutes, the train rolls in and we board a window-less, door-less car. What I mean is that the car is completely open-air. There are no doors in the spaces where doors would otherwise be, and there are no windows either. Once we get going, we can feel leaves of tree branches brush the skin of the elbows we have propped on the edge of our open window.

The mint-green molded plastic seats run length-wise down both sides of the car; they are in no way ergonomic. If you slouch back into it, the top rim hits you in exactly the wrong place in the middle of your back. Tall Susan sits erect without benefit of any back support–at least to begin with. My legs are short and dangle above the floor., so I immediately do what everyone else is doing: Face forward and cross my legs on the seat in front of me, meditation-style.

This is a poky local train that takes 3 hours to complete  it’s circle around Yangon. Local people get on and off. I can’t see that any of them have a ticket. School-uniformed boys in white shirts and dark green longhis cluster at the open door wearing their backpacks and probably daring each other to do what boys everywhere dare.

A man selling mandarin oranges walks through, and, through sign language, I buy 4. An hour later, A teenage girl and boy come by selling corn on the cob, boiled in the husk, and I buy one of those as my lunch.

One stop is especially lively. It’s a market with large trash bags full of fresh vegetables being hoisted onto the train, through the open windows and piled in the wide middle aisle, so that the design of the length-wise seats now makes sense. The only way to walk through the car now is to waddle over 3-foot tall bags stuffed with something or other.

I watch a young woman next to me, with a plastic grocery bag full of small green eggplants, cluster them in groups of 6 band twine them together.

By now, we have left behind the dusty shacks alongside the railroad and are now rolling through neat green gardens on one side and green fields on the other. I breathe deeply to feel such verdant spaciousness.

I am beginning to look more frequently at the maps in the Lonely Planet guidebook and at Susan’s watch. It seems this trip must surely take 5 hours, but then, surprisingly, we arrive back at the Central Train Station. As advertised, the trip took just 3 hours.

Temple Pajamas

Shwe Dagon

Shwe Dagon

In the evening, we go to a Buddhist temple, either the Shwe Dagon or the Botataung. By dark, most of the tourists have departed, and the temple becomes all-Burmese. One-year-olds learn to walk under the watchful eyes of hundreds of bronze Buddhas. Pre-schoolers run around in what look like pajamas.

Our friend Khin explains that people don’t wear pajamas, so kids may as well wear them for every day. PJs do look cool and comfortable. And I did buy some white, thin cotton pajamas for meditating in Thailand, where it is customary for yogis to wear all white. Four weeks from now, I’ll be walking around a temple in my pajamas.

Ssssshhhhh. Don’t tell anyone that they’re pajamas.

New Cars

The streets of Yangon are crowded with cars. We try to be strategic about going anywhere.  Yesterday morning, a taxi took Susan and me to the Central Train Station. When we returned from our 3-hour circular trip of Yangon (cost = $1), the taxi got us back in 15 minutes.

Khin lives in a 6th floor condo. When Connie was here a year and a half ago, she could not stay with Khin, due to government regulations. And the parking lot had 3 cars in it. Now 3 dozen white cars are parked in the parking lot for these 4 buildings.

Change is happening fast/slow here in Myanmar/Burma. Lots more cars, but the same streets that the British laid out a century ago. Pilings for skyscrapers are being driven in the ground beside bamboo thatched shacks.

For now, we can still see the Shwe Dagon temple and Aung San Suu Kyi’s house from Khin’s balcony. But next year, these views will be blocked by “progress.”

2 Taxis’ Worth of Luggage

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The 3 of us had to take 2 taxis to the Bangkok airport, and here’s why: The trunk of a taxi is half-filled by a propane tank. That leaves room for one big suitcase and one roller bag. Our inventory is 2 big suitcases, 4 roller bags, and a shoulder bag. Therefore, we needed 2 taxis to carry our luggage.

Theoretically, the propane should cut down on the smog. That sounds good.

But what if the taxi is rear-ended?

We arrived safely at the Bangkok airport and flew off to Yangon (formerly Rangoon).

Breakfast in Bangkok

imageMy sister teases my Hoosier brother about the time he drove 2,000 miles to her home in Washington in my mothers old Oldsmobile, stayed for dinner and flew home at 6:00 the next morning. I now have a story to top that: We flew to Bangkok for breakfast.

Arriving 24 hours later than expected, the taxi dropped us off at our friend’s condo at 12:30 a.m.  We talked until 2:00, went to bed, got up at 7:00, ate breakfast, and left at 10:45 a.m. for the airport. Ten hours at our friends place. At least, we could lie down flat and stretch out in a bed. In the morning I opened their refrigerator and ate leftovers for breakfast ( my favorite breakfast!)

Farewell Bangkok.

Expect the Unexpected

“Expect the unexpected” is the motto of the Experiment in International Living.

But, really, how do you feel when the unexpected clashes with the expected?

Our Plan.                 What Actually Happened

leaving home.     7:15.                       7:40

arriving at airport 8:45.                       9:35

plane departs.       10:10.                    10:35

arrive at DC.           11:40.                    12:25

depart for Tokyo.     12:20.

Depart for San Francisco.                       6:40

depart for Tokyo.                                     11:10 the next day

Arrive Bangkok.       11:45 P.m.                 11:45 p.m. The next day

Life is happening, not as we expected–or wanted. Yet, this is the way things are. Shall we fight against reality? Or shall we enjoy traveling and all the unexpected adventures?

 

Traveling Companions

imageI’m traveling with my neighbor, Connie, who’s going to Southeast Asia for her job, as she does every January.  Connie works for an NGO (non-governmental organization) And is the Senior Program Officer for Thailand, Laos, and Myanmar.

Connie’s good friend Susan is also traveling with us. Although I’ve known Susan for 40 years, she’s a good friend of friends of mine and has been on the periphery of my acquaintances.

Now the 3 of us are joined at the hip for the next 6 weeks.

We all met through the Experiment in International Living, which has now morphed into World Learning. Yet 40 years later we are still experimenting with international living–and traveling.

Missed Connections

We slid down the interstate to the airport in 3 inches of unplowed slushy snow. That added an extra 25 minutes to our hour and a half trip. We arrived nail-bitingly on time, but then the little airplane had to be de-iced. It left 25 minutes late.

Just as we pulled toward our gate we watched the big 747 pull out of our connecting gate C7 and head off to Tokyo. Without us.

Then there was standing in line for Customer Service, and getting rebooked for tomorrow. I’m traveling with 2 friends, one of whom makes this commute to Bangkok every year for her job.  She’s an out-of-the-box thinker, so she was looking for an out-of-the-box solution.  We returned to Customer Service for another half-hour of possibility-seeking. That’s when we heard that the forecast was for 3 inches of snow tomorrow morning. Would our plane actually depart at 12:20?

We opted for a San Francisco flight tonight, leaving for Bangkok at 11:10 tomorrow morning.

8 hours at Dulles airport.  And 24 hours late to Bangkok. Sigh.